Anybody that has been in a long term relationship will have eventually got to the part of proceedings where the sexual chemistry has waned. It is not uncommon. Let me clue you into a little secret here, just because it isn’t happening, that doesn’t mean that she doesn’t want it to.
Rule number one: Forget what you think you know
She may not have put on stockings and suspenders, that does not mean that she doesn’t want to jump on your pole. Women aren’t like men, they don’t catch one glimpse of a side boob on an advert for a moisturizer and suddenly decide that they just have to have you now (don’t feel bad, we’ve all been there). But that doesn’t mean that they don’t want your steaming hot load inside them, they do, it just takes more stimulus for them to realize it.
Rule number two: They aren’t a piece of meat!
You can treat them that way once you are in the “zone” but getting her to the point where she wants to fuck your brains out is the key, right? Men watch too much porn. We are led to believe that any damsel in distress that wants a promotion, or her washing machine fixed is going to fall out of her top and bounce gleefully up and down on your rock hard member; unless you look like Brad Pitt or are a very talented hypnotherapist that isn’t going to happen. Make her feel sexy, run her a bath, give her a massage. You need to get your woman to a state where she can forget about her stresses and then, only then, can she think about other things, you know, like fucking your brains out!
Rule number three: Do unto others
Have you ever been getting a blow job from a woman and she looks up at you with a face that says she wants to devour your cock? That she wants to take a load in her mouth? you have? It’s the sexiest feeling in the world, right? You may have experienced the opposite too. You are there pumping away and she has a face that says she would rather be watching a soap opera. Unless you are totally shit in bed (and that’s cool, some of us are!) you will probably be a little “put off” by this. Women feel the same way. They want to make their man excited. They want that sense of achievement. Seeing they are turning you on will turn them on. so let them know. Be interested.
Rule number four: Don’t fire the rifle when you first see the stag!
You have a hair trigger? Don’t worry about it, most of us do. Pull it out and do something else: go down on her, kiss her and finger her, anything that avoid contact with your cock. Yes, she wants you to shoot a big load all over her face, but not before she’s climaxed and really she wants it to happen at the same time as her. Don’t be too eager try and arrive together! This will keep your woman coming back for more.